How to run the check-in

Set a recurring time each week. Keep it short, phones down, one speaker at a time. The goal is early course correction, not perfect agreement.

Question set (7 prompts)

  1. What felt good between us this week?
  2. Where did either of us feel misunderstood?
  3. What moment made you feel supported?
  4. What moment felt tense or unresolved?
  5. What practical help do you need from me next week?
  6. What boundary or expectation needs clarification?
  7. What is one small change we can test this week?

Keep it useful

End every check-in with one concrete next step and one appreciation sentence. This keeps the conversation balanced between repair and connection.

If the check-in escalates

Pause, name the escalation, and choose one question to continue with. Finishing one question well is better than forcing all seven.